A Mother's Journey: From Despair to Hope in Understanding Autism

Mon Apr 06 2026 14:28:43 GMT+0000 (Coordinated Universal Time)

Martha Ongwane's transformation from desperation to maternal joy encapsulates the poignant struggle of families facing autism in Malawi, a country lacking appropriate support.

Martha Ongwane shares her harrowing experience of grappling with her daughter Rachael's autism in Malawi, where stigma and lack of resources initially led to despair and even suicidal thoughts. However, with access to supportive care from organizations like Saint John of God and a supportive community, Martha has transformed her relationship with Rachael, now thriving in a nurturing environment. Her story sheds light on the broader challenges faced by families dealing with autism in regions with inadequate mental health services.

Martha Ongwane looks adoringly at her bouncy, giggling four-year-old daughter Rachael, unable to believe that just two years ago, her desperation led her to contemplate harming her own child.

Rachael, who is non-verbal and had been diagnosed with autism, left Martha feeling overwhelmed and isolated, often shunned by her neighbors who blamed her for Rachael's behavior. In a country where autism is poorly understood and the word itself does not exist in the native language, Martha felt there was little hope. I told myself it would be better if she died because that would mean she would rest and that would be the end of our problems, Martha recounted, speaking softly.

Fortunately, Martha's heart prevented her from acting on those dark thoughts, and after seeking help, her life began to change. With support from organizations like Saint John of God, which provides mental health services for children, both Martha and Rachael have found hope and understanding.

Now, as Rachael climbs onto her mother’s lap and they share a laugh, the love between them is evident. They have a routine filled with joy, in stark contrast to the turmoil they once faced. Martha expresses that if only she had received help sooner, things might have been different.

However, the journey to understanding autism in Malawi remains arduous. Rachael is among over 60 million people worldwide on the autism spectrum, yet very few in Malawi receive the recognition and treatment they require. There is only a handful of professionals specializing in developmental disorders, leaving families to navigate prejudice and misinformation largely on their own.

Martha's story shines a light on the potential for transformation when adequate support is made accessible. She shares her experience in hopes of encouraging others facing similar struggles, saying, I adore her now. Each day is a gift because we can share our love and laughter. Martha emphasizes that while access to expert care has made a significant difference, her journey is a reminder of the urgent need to raise awareness about autism in countries with limited resources.